Critical parent; help to cope

If you had/have a critical parent and they still seem to impact negatively on your life, then this simple strategy will help to transform the way you think about them. Even parents who were abusive towards us, this may help release you from some of the pain.

Being criticised is hard to take

Any form of criticism can be hard to take and coming from a critical parent can impact on your sense of self.

Luckily, using NLP we can change the way we feel about this by how we ‘re-frame’ them in our mind.

There are other video’s on this site teaching you how to change your internal dialog, they also will really help you.

Stuck with their criticism

It can seem as if we have our ‘critical parent’ inside our mind constantly chastising us and telling us our faults. This does wonders for our self esteem…Not!

Birmingham hypnotherapist and NLP trainer Debbie Williams shares on this video a simple ‘shift’ in the way you think can make all the difference.

Questions to transform the criticism

Questions we can ask to transform the hold a critical parent has on us includes;

What have they taught me?

It could even be ‘how not to be’ if that makes sense. One client of mine had been treated dreadfully, I mean dreadfully, not only by her mother but other family members, yet she has become a fantastic mother as she knows what not to do!

What useful things have they given me?

I’m not talking about material things, more so about character traits, maybe stubbornness , ability to stand your ground or maybe you’ve cultured kindness as they were not kind to you.

What have you not thought about until now, that you have learned from your critical parent that has been a huge asset to you?

Critical parent list

Start a list about your critical parents traits, lessons and useful things you have learned to do, or not do because of them.

Also get your free stop worrying recording as it has a worry buster machine in the trance where you can dump the garbage you want to get rid of leaving you lighter and freer.

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Exercise and enjoy it; belly dancing?

Many of us have an aversion to exercise as we think it’s going to be ‘painful’ and phrases like ‘no pain no gain’ don’t help either.

As children we never really thought about it, even the sedentary child moved – a lot.

Yet today with being driven to school and hours in front of some box, the TV or play station movement is dramatically reduced.

Could belly dancing be the answer?

You have to find an exercise that is fun and enjoyable and belly dancing does tick those boxes.

Not only that, belly dancing massages all the internal organs as you will see if you have a go with some of the moves in this short belly dancing instructional video. This helps with digestion as well as toning up the core muscles in the body and ultimately strengthening the back.

Can’t be bad!

Go on I dare you; try following the belly dancing moves

Have you had a go? What if you committed to practicing some belly dancing each day?

Or looked for a belly dance class in your area?

‘Belly dancing is my fun job’ says Birmingham belly dancing teacher Debbie Williams who also is a NLP trainer and hypnotherapist. Debbie uses accelerated learning techniques and NLP to help students learn belly dancing in a fun easy way.

Belly dancing; not from Birmingham

If you fancy belly dancing but are not from Birmingham you can still learn in the comfort of your own home as I’ve put a couple of belly dancing choreography’s online. here are the links;

http://www.birminghambellydance.co.uk/drum_solo_number_2.htm

http://www.birminghambellydance.co.uk/beginners_drum_solo.htm

Or if you are in the Birmingham area come along to a belly dance class.

http://www.birminghambellydance.co.uk/home.htm

Belly dancing will tone you up

Belly dancing will tone you up, and its more challenging than you think. Go on have a go, you know you want to.

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Law of attraction

Law of attraction made popular from the movie ‘The secret ‘ Rhonda Byrne is the inspiration for the free ‘Law of attraction’ video.

Planting suggestions of being in the right place at the right time.

Feeling you life is in flow and you are attracting to yourself your hopes and  dreams.

Law of attraction; being in flow

Law of attraction allows you to be in flow when you attune yourself to who you really are.

When you allow yourself to release all the worries, concerns and busyness which takes up your day then life becomes easier and easier.

You find you can begin to live your life in the miracle zone.

Law of attraction trance

This law of attraction trance by Birmingham hypnotherapist Debbie Williams will help you to harness the power of your mind to create greater things in your life.

Law of attraction; thoughts are things

The law of attraction states thoughts are things and what you think about you bring about.

You get in your life more of what you focus on. Think about it now and try not to think of the colour blue.

Have you not thought about it?  How many times do you feel you are working on your ‘issue’ and getting no-where with it?

Could it be that you are focusing continually on the problem but not the solution?

Law of attraction an example

An example of the law of attraction is of many private clients who come to me with issues with food.

They say to me ‘I just want to stop binge eating ‘ or ‘I don’t want to be fat’ or ‘I just can’t stop eating’ . I help them to change their focus to learn to eat as a lean, healthy happy person does ensuring they work towards a goal that feels more positive and moves away from the dieting watching your weight model.

Please download your ‘stop worrying and create a wonderful life recording’ if you havn’t already.

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Happiness quote: “The trouble with happiness is people don’t practice it” – Paul McKenna.

Happiness Does Require Practice

Like any skill, to gain mastery requires practice, practice, practice. What if you set a goal to master happiness? Where could you be a month from now if you focused on the things which give you short term and long term satisfaction and reward through the effort of planning and working those plans.

Where could you be a year from now, or even 5 years if you set your sights on developing the character traits of naturally happy people?

Birmingham Hypnotherapist Debbie Williams

Birmingham Hypnotherapist Debbie Williams who assisted Paul McKenna and Dr Richard Bandler on their Practitioner courses, Master Practitioner and Trainer Trainer courses for many years talks about some of the things she learnt from Paul McKenna, one of which is the quote about happiness above.

You can start your journey in authentic happiness and being happy by listening to her free hypnosis recording “Stop worrying and create a wonderful life”. The positive psychology in the free NLP based recording will teach you how to change your life for the better.

Happiness Videos For You

You deserve a happy life, it requires some effort on your part but you can learn how to find happiness if you make happiness a project for yourself.

Paul McKenna’ s “I can make you happy  “  book is also a useful tool to learn to be happy or to be happy again. Paul McKenna is happy to be of help if you are thinking “help me find happiness” and he also gives away a free hypnosis recording within the I can make you happy book.

Sign up to get my free hypnosis recording and once a month I will send you some free life coaching on how to change life for the better to ensure a happy life as well as keeping you posted with new videos and more free downloads.

Learn what is happiness and being happy , you can be happy and help self to find happiness, so go ahead get your free hypnosis and let the stress be lifted from your life.

For more useful items to help you be happy visit www.debbiewilliamsassociates.co.uk

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